Yes, lets be real and face the fact that there is a very real need for a standard protocol for splitting up. The realest things about divorce/annulment are the reasons and causes behind it. Here are a few I’ve encountered while reading up on cases and clicking through testimonies and stories.
Number one on the list is the failure of communication. Communication is important in all walks of life. Failure of communication may lead to the loss of a sporting team, a plane crash and yes, separation. One of the main causes of divorce is the failure to communicate marital problems. Couples tend to “bury their heads in sand” or an individual ending up “talking to a wall”. Communication is essential. Reasons to why it fails vary, but when it does, so does the marriage.
In a culture mostly dominated by monogamous relationships, the presence of a third party is another prime reason for separation. Any person engaged in a relationship will not deny the fact that sometimes an itch presents itself. An itch to try different things, enjoy a different crowd, be with someone, to be well-- different. And for these reasons some individuals stray and commit infidelity, the same Infidelity that causes pain and separation, and dissolves mutuality. When this happens, most relationships and marriages fail.
“Money is the root of all evil” not necessarily, but it is a primary cause for divorce. Money is a tool essential for every family to reach a certain comfort. Regardless of how people view what is comfortable, and what isn’t, being in discomfort for a long time may test a relationship. And sometimes, not being able to pay the bills, buy that car, or accommodate a certain lifestyle causes a tired and weary individual to just quit from the marriage.
Sex. Yes, sex. Sex fuels the intimate function of a relationship. Not being able to have good sex, will sometimes lead to a partner wanting better. And when better is what they want rather than the partner smells of marital failure. Most young couples are vulnerable to this, but as relationships grow older and stronger, lovemaking is demoted to a much less of a problem.
It might be snoring really loud. It might be having a strong love or disgust for dogs. It might be the porn you hide under your bed. It might be smoking. It might be stretch marks. “It” can be many different little things that annoy an individual. Add “it” to the equation and everything else is amplified. It is real enough to say that the failure to overcome the little annoying things helps build the problem and contribute to the breakup.
There are many different things that push couples to the limit. It can be one of these things, a combination of two or more issues, or something that isn’t as predictable as the others. People have problems, and problems either make or break a person, and it’s these kinds of problems that make or break relationships.
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