Just Another Testimony (Tita Armin)

Yup, just another Testimony, from friends and family. Its amazing how much people know, and how much people have been through. Even more amazing how much you learn from the very different ways they perceive things, and how they turn out to be amazing and intriguing individuals. I'm lucky enough to have interviewed one of my most respected persons in the world, who so happens to be a really close relative, Tita Armin. This is her story, personally, who at the present sits at a very morally questionable crossroad.

Tita Armin (not her real name, which should be no longer a surprise) is a Mom of four college kids. She is a Widow, and has been for 8 years now. She's a very smart and compassionate woman, who (almost) singlehandedly raised four kids to become very independent and capable, young adults. She goes to Church, is the director of the Choir and Worship committee, and is a very devout Christian. However, her predicament raises a lot of questions, as she is currently in love and in an affair with a married man, a very old friend. Tito dicky, the married man, is currently on the rocks with his wife, but loves both Armin and his family.  Why is this information relevant? Because it shows in her answers, and what her thoughts are about the topic.

I asked her about what her views were about divorce, this was her response.

"Divorce is only a means to a choice. A choice that is neither right or wrong. Mahirap, kasi hindi mo talaga malalagyan ng standard ang desisyon ng tao. In the end, they will always have choices and the causality of these decisions. Whether or not its necessary, depends on who we're dealing with, but when we're dealing with a great population of people with a myriad of different possible scenarios, there should be more options that are able to accommodate them."

True. But doesn't the Church strongly say no to divorce? Isn't it against the teachings of scriptures?

"The Roman Catholic Church strongly disagrees. But I believe, that right and wrong can't be laid down as a standard which the Church in fact strongly fights for. The reality is, that there are many possible truths, individual truths, truths that sometimes don't make sense to other people, and sometimes do. The Church has to learn to accept this fact, that the world isn't two dimensional. Hindi siya black and white. The Bible has accommodated this truth, and its the same drive that has given it its girth to last many generations"

Strong.

"People make mistakes, and sometimes they are necessary. We make choices, that seem both wrong and right. The same way Romeo and Juliet, or Robin Hood, or other characters that were confronted with both admiration and detest cannot be judged or categorized into one absolute truth. Ganun din sa relationships. Diba? Love cannot be considered wrong, it has no standards. Love can push for divorce if it wanted to and still justified the choice. I'm just saying that people are confronted with tough choices, and that there should be options provided, and that there should be enough responsibility from people to determine and judge accordingly. There is no right and wrong way of dealing with things, and divorce is no exception."

I got nothin.

Thank you Tita Armin