During my pursuit for something "bloggable", I've arranged a few series of testimonies from different people. I think that a good way to work on knowing what's best for everyone, is knowing first what everyone thinks. So for the next few days, maybe weeks, I'll be talking it out with different friends and family to well, hear what they have to say. No surveys, no formal interviews, nothing. No names, since it isn't necessarily needed, and since most of them, have chosen to you know-- be anonymous.Nothing but good old conversation on what they know, feel, or say about divorce, and why it should or shouldn't be allowed in the Philippines.
The second installment to the series of testimonies, is a Father, a dad to three children, and a husband to a loving wife. He is a doctor, who loves taking pictures, and enjoys the occasional trip to the gym. He is a good dad who works during the day, has dinner with his family at night, and spends time helping the kids with daily lessons. He's my uncle, who, for conversation's sake, will be named Uncle Ramon. Uncle Ramon gladly shared his views on the matter. He's openly pro-divorce (pro RHB too, sharing.) and has a few things to say about the topic.
"Una sa lahat, dapat divided ang gobyerno tsaka simbahan. Dapat dalawang magkaibang entity yan. Hindi pupuwedeng tutulan ng simbahan ang mga desisyong pambayan, at hindi lamang pang Kristyano. I go to Church every Sunday, I bring my kids and family to Church, but I also know that there are parts of and people in the Philippines who need certain legislations as guides to help mediate conflicts. Hindi naman tanga ang gobyerno eh (yung iilan lang sakanila)."
I could have not agreed more Uncle Ramon. The government does what it thinks is best for the country. The Church is a strong and good influence to people, but it should not hinder different kinds of legislation for ideology's sake.
"Hindi paraiso ang mundong to. Shit happens, and the Church only acknowledges this up to a certain extent. Sometimes this leads them to a much narrow minded thinking, which does not usually well with constantly changing times. Diba kaya nga nadivide ang Church at saka State, for the sake of progress."
True enough.
"Sa trabaho ko (Doctor), I get to converse with people on a daily basis. Hindi niyo alam kung gaano kadami ng pasyente ko ang biktima ng marital violence. Naging kultura na ito, na dapat tolerant lang tayong lahat. Eh papaano naman yun, hindi na tolerance yun eh, oppression na. We really need to restructure the way we think."
Word.
"At isa pa. I love my kids, and I love my family. Pero when the time comes (na sana hindi naman mangyari) na hindi na kami good terms with my wife, I want what's best for both her and my family. At paminsan, hindi na pupuwedeng personal judgement nalang. Laging papasok ang bias ko sa sarili ko, ganun rin siguro sa ibang mga cases. Kailangan talaga ng mediating entity at saka legislation."
You have a good point sir.
Thank you, Uncle Ramon.
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